Oh, tell me about it. I like the SWG Discord but occasionally I have noped out of discussions, or not joined in to start with, because someone arbitrarily decides a ship I like is a cliché (*cough* Maedhros/Fingon) or my take on a certain event is wrong because HoME says differently (*cough* the Awakening, which I take a swipe at in Paradox).

Tolkien's views kept evolving, anyway. I think as long as there is in-story/in-verse consistency, fic writers should focus on whichever bits of "canon" make the most sense to them.

(ETA - Keiliss, sorry for borrowing your comments section to moan...!)